7 Reasons why Tinder is a game changer (and not in a good way) 

1) Requests for threesomes are everywhere, or at least way too commonplace. Usually the profile picture will be of the couple and the description will be asking for another female. Wait, so this could actually be more popular only in my  state of Florida. Disgusting and disappointing. Is anyone monogamous anymore?

2) People you know offline pop up a lot and it’s awkward. Really awkward. (Even more so when you’re socially awkward in real life too!) …if this happens to me again in the future I’m only swiping right out of courtesy, not to hookup!

3) A thirty-something year old guy on Tinder taught me the word Camgirl solely because he decided to include it in his profile.  It’s an urban dictionary word and just like it sounds means chicks on Tinder can be camera girls, as in also kind of being a professional at it. Ugh! 

4) Proximity couldn’t be more of an important word for Tinder. Why isn’t this app called Proximity. That’s genius! 

5) Going hand in hand with #4, people that live close to you could end up showing 500 miles or plus away when they use Tinder for travel pleasure. Really??? Ugh again. By the way, you’d have to have a chat with them saved, or another easy way to see their profile again to notice the distance change. Besides the chat, the only other way this could happen happen is if you deactivate and reactivate your profile. 

6) Initiating an actual chat conversation with a match feels like striking gold. But why? Why do people match with someone they swiped right for to just let the match collect dust with no intention of communication?

7) Tinder is relevant yet totally superficial at the same time. Lord have mercy??!

  

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Three Date Rule and the Three day rule

The three date rule states some variation of the fact that sex should be initiated by the third date. Or at least the interest level should be determined to decide if sex will happen or not. Given my most recent dating experience I have to agree with it. I don’t give a crap if it’s an old rule or unproven rule. It’s one that makes sense.

I just met a guy online and we met in person pretty fast. Let me stop right there and say sometimes that is even hard to do. People back out, get sucked in by other things going on, or simply meet too many other people online at the same time. It’s a whirlwind really and sometimes you have to be that squeaky wheel begging for the oil.

So I met a guy online and it went something like this: Date one: coffee meet up turned into Greek food apps. Date two: I went to his place. He wasn’t much of a tv lover, so some talking happened. No tv. Some kissing, some fooling around. Date three: same as date two but the determination had to be made about the sex. Don’t ask me why… Probably having nothing to do with the three date rule, sex was presented, and the decision all up to little, old me. The final verdict: not this time! Not interested! I suppose I used the three date rule without even realizing it. I say why not reinvent it to your own individual style. Whatever point it takes so you can decide and judge your physical and intimate interest level. I’ve had a “spark” on a first date before (You can see my older post, The Gemini, for a little more on that) and know it will happen again. And happen with someone where it isn’t all about the physical either. It will be a nice balance of the two, physical and intellect.

So here’s a cool article about rules better than the three-DAY rule, which let’s face facts, can easily be mixed up with the three date rule. And it’s another super outdated rule. The Huff post article mentions dating rules you should follow over waiting three days to call. I really dig them all, especially the last one that states the only thing you can control in a relationship is yourself. All and all, still connected to today’s dating, since all rules for online dating are becoming more and more obsolete…If there are any dating rules still being followed at all.

Once a rebel, always a rebel,

Single Girl

Dating Naked show getting sued? Who cares, the Onion rocks…

Late last night I was scrolling through my Facebook news feed. First, I saw a People article posted about some chick suing over breach of contract as a contestant on a show, are you ready for this, wait for it, Dating Naked.  Then right below that article, I see the Onion posted a share from the AV club about the same article.

What had me thinking more than I should about this were the random comments to the Onion post. The Onion is satire, but in the same sense, real. So, just because something happens to be ridiculous, like, “man decides he’s taking lunch at 10:30am, hungry again too early,” these are still real people being interviewed. People don’t get that. So a comment or two even thought The Onion share was a fake article. The comments ranged to the typical perverts: So where can I see her goods that they didn’t blur out?, to silly girls defending her: Hey, she has the right to sue, they told her her crotch would be censored, to, so she’s suing about being shown naked as a participant of a tv show called Dating Naked? Makes perfect sense. Also going by the comments, apparently you could find the goods in question by doing a simple Google search? America you are greatest! lol. 

I could care less about the legal jargon and I definitely don’t know enough about it to care. But the comments did open my eyes to how awesome the Onion really is. Real or fake, satire or not, the Onion article was still more entertaining to read. It doesn’t matter how ridiculous the story, the Onion is the funniest. You can be the judge by looking at both articles I linked above. The Onion, I heart you. Rock on.

Happy weekend, 

Single Girl 

In a relationship and it’s complicated

Facebook, a.k.a. the devil, has a relationship status listed, that instead of single, married, widowed, etc., allows you to actually choose that you’re in a relationship and it’s complicated. Many of you avid Facebook users would already know about this. Like me. Which is wonderful.

I just had recently had the pleasant experience (more sarcasm) of going on a date with a guy about a month or so ago that had this very status displayed on his Facebook. Let me tell you how this smooth criminal operated. We had a first date. During the first date he asked me if he could request me on Facebook. I obliged. Him and I **cough cough** hung out. After hanging out with him I accepted him as a friend and that’s when I saw his relationship status.

You may be wondering was there some reasoning behind it? Sadly there was. He had an 11 month old baby. So obviously, the complicated relationship was with the baby’s mama. Not trying to get all ghetto fabulous, but just telling a story.

He’s contacted me on and off since the first date. I’ve luckily dodged the bullet of seeing him again though.

Here’s my status:

waitingibamiracle

Are there actually any “available” guys out there?,

Single Girl Woes

The therapist hook-up

If this makes any sense, I am really trying to only create distraction while using online dating right now, probably in hopes of finding love offline…so with that being said, I have  been actively back on the free site Plenty of Fish. In the mist of this pursuit, I had a lot of guys stop talking to me before they even met me in person. My explanation for this is too much quantity on the site (maybe because it’s free?), but maybe it’s also because there’s too many men on it only looking to hook up. It’s like,  HELLO, go use a hook up site instead…There are plenty of them out there, I want to date damn it!

Getting back on track,  I did meet a man in person about only a week and a half ago, a 40-year-old therapist. Yes, like a psychology therapist that a person would pay money to lay down on a couch and tell their problems to. This kind of blew my mind alone, before meeting him, I instantly thought, “Man, give me a free session on my dating life!” With all joking aside though, I was still trying to get to know him as an individual to decide if he would be someone I would be interested in dating or not.

The order of events were quite simple. I spoke to Therapist dude very briefly online on POF. We exchanged phone numbers, then we texted a little the first night. The second night we talked on the phone. We talked about his job a bit. He was straight forward about liking adventure. He quote unquote said…”If I didn’t seek adventure outside of my job, I would lose my sanity.” How he broke it down, I understood where he was coming from. That phone call lead into a little naughtiness because he was very assertive, and I really dug his voice. He wanted to meet in person after that. But you wouldn’t have to be a genius to predict that he wanted to meet for the adventure…he wanted to meet for fun.

The next night we had the plans to go out and meet for a drink. The date was set for 10 o’clock due to his schedule. It seemed all fine. He texted to make sure we were still on for the date a couple hours before and everything. Well, 10 turned into 11:30. And the drink date turned into him coming over to my place.

When I met him I was totally undecided about my interest level. The voice I fell in love in didn’t hold up to the fact that profile pictures can sometimes seem ten times better than the person in real life. What made matters even worse was that he didn’t give me any time to decide if I wanted to get physical, as Olivia Newton John would put it. He was almost a little forceful, like he was on the phone, but luckily I told him I wanted him to stop, and he stopped. I was grateful he wasn’t a complete crazy or a bad guy, because if either held true, the situation could have ended a lot differently. I guess the adventure seeking part was a dead give away, but this just makes me want to be more cautious of who I invite into my little world. Well, I got a story out of it anyway…The therapist hook up. The therapist fail!

Have fun but be safe,

Single Girl Woes