What I learned in 2016: a personal yet always random year in review

Can I start off by saying here in South Florida it doesn’t feel like December. Sure, it has still cooled off those 2 or 3 degrees. There are lights up. There are Christmas trees and decorations starting to show up more and more since December 1st hit.  But it just doesn’t feel like December. With that, let me transition so smoothly into my first random thought. All random. All related to something I learned in 2016. It’s been one heck of a year. 


Could there BE a funnier quote  to start with, as Chandler Bing would say? No there couldn’t be. Just like Vegas: what happens in 2016 stays in 2016.  Basically no matter how much it doesn’t feel like December, no matter how many times you say, “gee this is another year that went by too freaking fast”, no matter how much you reflect on the colossal amount of universe and personal shit that went down, the year is finally ending. For those disppointed in the election results, like I was, please remain strong. Pleasant twists and turns may be in store.  Also back to the quote or meme, it also reminds me of the movie Fight Club. “First rule of fight club, never talk about fight club”. Lol. Sayonara 2016, just Sayonara! 

2) I lived with my sister for four months out of 2016, and I have to say I took a lot from the experience. My sister has a husband and a 6 year old child. She loves me and is protective of me. But being 34 years old she just found it difficult to understand my place, and what brought me to the point in my life where I had to stay with her rent free for those months. She took me in and supported me. Being somewhat psychic, I feel she felt like a Harry Potter spell or a quick point of a magic wand would fix everything. I have had over 22 jobs that haven’t lasted since 2014. She just doesn’t get it. I am grateful I got to live with her though because it taught me no one is perfect. No one’s life is perfect. They were imperfectly who they were and I was imperfectly who I was. It’s not Facebook. It’s raw real life. They were a family, so as much as I would have been happy to stay longer, I had to be nomadic once again and move. I’ve moved too much professionally and personally. That’s been my life the past few years. And especially in 2016, I am hoping to finally say I learned from it. She doesn’t have to get me. I don’t have to get her stability. She has a family. I’ve never been married yet, but I learned your marriage and family by marriage has to always come first. When it doesn’t, that’s when you have bigger problems to fry! ❤️


Going with the bullets above, I think this quote is fitting and superb. The original quote is also in the book Furiously Happy by Jenny Lawson, but she only uses, “hell is other people”. I talked to my therapist this year about this quote and we agreed it really is both. It’s your own lens that perceive your opinions about others. So it truly does all start with you. Hell is other people. AND hell is yourself. Food for thought. It brings my life and love for the yin yang full circle. The full circle thing is fresh in my head thanks to the awesome Gilmore Girls revival. Maybe there is such a thing as balance out there? Or maybe like I pointed out above, maybe it’s the perfect imperfections that create an individual’s idea of balance. Life is messy, but that’s what makes it beautiful. That’s what makes it exciting. 

4) I learned this year that even with being so mobile with my career and living arrangements, I can still seek and find answers. I have a great amount of intuition and psychic ability that I don’t trust. I have to learn how to harness it and its good power. It will be the thing that makes me rise. It will be the thing that makes me peak, but continuously, not only once. I decided and was guided to make a bold move and  work for myself. It’s actually one of the main reasons I haven’t posted in a while on here. It’s completely in the beginning stages, and all that doesn’t matter. It will take time. How much time? I’m not sure. But isn’t, time anyways, all relative? It will make things sync in my life.  And what’s better than that really? 


Finally, when someone pushes you down, please remember this quote. You are perfect just the way you are. I’m still learning to forgive myself. I can forgive others a little too easily, but I must forgive myself. I’m highly sensitive, I’m emotional, and in all my imperfections, I am perfect just the way I am! 

Fuck resolutions, this is 2017 we’re talking about,



Damn, Daniel! Back at it again with the randomness. 

1) I’ve had a very sporadic schedule the past three months. It’s far from an open schedule, because I’ve never been busier with appointments in my whole life, but I tend to have many nights where I can stay up late. Mix my schedule with insomnia and now you’ve just created an avid YouTube watching machine.  Being single also allows freedom for YouTube surfing at anytime. So what kind of videos do you find watching YouTube until 5:30 in the morning, you ask? A shitload! You find Ellen DeGeneres interviewing the kids behind Damn, Daniel. Then you find videos on the movie they made based on Damn, Daniel. Then videos on why it’s popular. The answer, by the way: it’s a joke that’s laid out in as quick and simple of a format as a meme.   Outside this “younger than MY generation stuff” is the “inside my generation stuff”. This is the crap I love watching the most…like the Saturday Night Live  clips that always have the social media  comments on how every episode sucks and the show hasn’t been good in twenty years. Blah, blah, blah.. Sorry, but Kate McKinnon s Hillary is hilarious. Or Jimmy Fallon skits, or James Corden’s carpool skits. The list for late night shows right now is endless because it’s all so good.  Then one night after watching some Fallon skits, I found Stephen Colbert videos. By the way, Colbert  is such an under-appreciated talent, which is the same opinion even mentioned by the genius Steve Carell. From these strings of videos, I find ones highlighting Jon Stewart’s final episode. This is all golden stuff and I learned a lot about Stewart and Colbert’s closeness.  Finally from the Fallon, to the Colbert,  to the Stewart I found this skit below, at the already mentioned 5:30 in the morning. Sleep is overrated, my friends. But also a necessity to function.  Thank you bbc: Walhberg’s laugh is contagious and Ferrell’s New Kids on the Block joke is the essence of this millennial’s humor.  So hilarious yet as time wasting as every other skit/show mentioned. 

2) I dropped a 5lb weight on my foot last month. The result was a broken fourth toe on my left foot. Is it irony it happened moments after an Instagram post talking about bettering myself and being happy doing things that make me happy alone. (hello, like exercise???) Any reiki peeps who can help shed light?? I feel it was a message telling me to slow down and also to do more root chakra work. Hopefully it’s even a root chakra rebalance and clearing in some strange way? I’m expecting a lot more than just physical healing from this recovery.   #pain #footinjury #weights #bruised #rootchakra #chakras #slowdownbaby #slowdown #rootchakrawork

3) because:random! 

4)  because: boundaries

Looking for peace but finding some good distraction instead, 



I really should be sound asleep right now, but instead felt the urge to share, or create, my thoughts with you lovelies, by the help of some pictures I have saved on my phone.

1) Love will come when you least expect it, from probably a someone you least expect. Maybe that friend zone guy that you still see or talk to everyday, maybe a new neighbor, maybe a new person you meet from doing an activity or outing you wouldn’t normally do. Think outside the box. Think outside your comfort zone. And then just have fun, of course.I simultaneously fell in love with the artwork on this one and the message in words.

2) Attended my first drumming circle last weekend and it was an awesome experience. The instructor was handsome with twenty plus years drumming experience. The vibration from the sound alone made me a believer that it is definitely a releasing tool. Releasing of all of it…repeating old negative patterns, releasing old pain or hurt, releasing to make room for the new.


3) This is my soul, heart, and spirit explained in a nutshell. I am a fairy hybrid forced to live some time in the physical world.

Going hand in hand with that: Fairy tarot cards, you will be mine, oh yes, you will be mine. Who doesn’t love a Wayne’s World reference? Party on, Doreen Virtue and your beautiful angel cards. Party on.

4) That darn Facebook will always be the debvil to me. Major love hate, and leaving me always seesawing up and down.  Like most others, I just spend time looking at old people I dated,  and then those people’s people end up under my people you may know list, and you wind up looking at strangers. Its a vicious cycle that can only be mended by severe moderation or by completely staying off of it altogether. It’s big brother, it’s a time waster, and is not meant to make you feel bad. I have to separate from it and let go of the bad feelings I have from it once and for all. Go ahead and send me a friend request–guy I haven’t talked to in two years,IMG_2912go ahead and Facebook stalk me ex-boyfriend from six years ago, or random guy I’m dating, go ahead and like a picture I post the minute I post it, then proceed to bs me, and tell me you don’t really look or blow up my page at all. Oh the insanity. All ego here, but can’t help myself. Another related Facebook theme or quote: “I’m staying off Facebook to get a life!”

5) A lot of changes are about to occur for me in the next few weeks, and I came across this Danielle Laporte truthbomb quote. It’s quite appropriate for my individual experience right now. I thank a friend for introducing me to her, and these truthbombs are always relevant. Never fear your future, just be a badass and create it.


Wishing that you all are still feeling all the feels, gratitude, and love from Thanksgiving.  Always search for something, SG


It’s amazing to me that this will only be my second or so random list post on this blog. Well, because I love lists, and variety is the spice of life, baby.  So here i go, and it’ll be just as therapeutic as ranting:

1) So as an avid or maybe not so avid online dater, I’m back doing the online dating thing. I had a date last week, and talking hardcore to a different guy that I have interest in on one of the sites. My lesson to myself is this though, if I’m seeking communication and respect, why would it make sense to accept someone stringing me along for a pointless ride? Well, if you let go of fear, you’re left with love. And if you have love none of that matters much anyways. You just say okay, you’re not available for me…NEXT!! Read up on the warnings signs that a guy is stringing you along here.

2) Well, going hand in hand with that, don’t let people walk all over you. A reoccurring lesson in my love life since I was even a teenager is that I give the wrong people too many chances and too much of my attention, when they are only using me for the temporary fix of attention to boost their own ego. No more!! The number one way to combat desperation in love is self-love. Once you love yourself and respect yourself, others follow foot or lead so to speak) I have been a self-help reading junkie lately, and taking a lot from it. I’ve read Oprah’s What I know for sure, and moved on to Jen Sincero’s, You are a badass.  The online reviews swayed me a little bit for Oprah’s book. I loved that she quoted Tolle several times, and even Ruiz, but her 1% was definitely showing throughout the book. Perfect example was when she talking about  shopping at Tiffany’s in the late nineties and she was debating between two pieces and was reminded by a friend she could afford both.  She talks down about having any kind of debt, which was another hard pill to swallow given the source. The Jen Sincero book has a great reference section at the end that lists all the books she used to write hers. Even if you decide not to read it, look at it for that alone. You’ll be glad you did.

4) The attitude of graditude will change your life. This is a promise. The Universe is an overflowingly abundant universe, and if you practice graditide daily, the rewards will come reaping in. I suppose I’m pitching a graditude journal.  I’m starting to work on this myself. Major game changer. Just breath and believe! If what you have is plenty, more will come pouring in. Quite naturally I may add.

5) Stole this gem from a Teal Swan YouTube video. Awesomeness. Awesome randomness

6) This guy Matthew Hussey has a ton of YouTube videos on dating. Besides being easy on the eyes, having confident mannerisms, and a heaven of a sexy voice, his tips are all relevant, helpful, and modern. Anything from first date tips, how to boost attraction, to why shy can come across as boring. Can I get a amen for finding this guy?? I’ve always held strong opinions about if guys and girls can just be friends and he explains, attraction to others and outside will always be there, but if the choice of loyalty takes the front plate, you will have a partner that’s faithful to you. In my mind, the answer is a flat out no. To each their own, and every relationship is different.

6) What I know for sure or what I’ve learned this past month: I desire to always keep learning. Discover, take eventful full leaps of faith, and act in this game called life.

Count your blessings, always. Randomness out.