My 2015, much like my 2014, had an array of ups and downs, and a particular low towards September and October. I got up though, I took responsibility, and the last two months of the year worked  on my life like a champ.

Have a happy, healthy, safe, fun, joyous, unpredictable, awesome,  positively life-changing-for-the-best-version-of-your-life—- New Years eve and new year to come that you can possibly have.

I say bring it on 2016. I AM COMING AT YOU LIKE A FUCKING BULLDOZER! May the new year bring you all magic and new beginnings I believe that is associated with this year’s digits totaling 9 and being a 9 year.

Is heck ya in order?- SG



Grounding tips from an ungrounded chick 

Have you ever felt up in the clouds? When everyone else has their feet planted firmly on the ground. If you answered yes, you may need to follow some of the grounding techniques I provide in this post below.  The side effects of being ungrounded are serious ones: constant money struggles (money comes and goes, but doesn’t stay.), endless agruments with your support system, being nomadic and having a shaky home foundation, being unfocused, aloof, and scattered.  I learned most of these grounding tips from Doreen Virtue and Teal Swan. 

1) Walk barefoot in the grass. This not only connects you to nature, but grounds you with the actual earth’s soil.

2) Take up gardening. Same as number 1, this is a methaper for planting your seeds in the ground.

3) Work on your root chakra. I specifically was told to do a represented flushing motion for this, taking all the negative from all the chakras, starting at the crown and flushing it out at the root.  Releasing all the negative and bringing back up to the crown only positive. This also flushes any energy that is residual and doesn’t belong to you.

4) Wear the color red, as this symbolizes the color of the root chakra.

5) Eat food that comes from the roots of the earth or that are reddish in color, like potatoes, sweet potato, beets, or strawberries.

6) Get grounding crystals such as Hematite, Smoky Quartz, and Jasper. They are darker and black in color, so not the sexiest crystals, but favorites for grounding.

Finally, it pains me to even write this, so that’s why I’m using it as a conclusion, as opposed to a numbered bullet…mediate less and/or differently. There is a false security from staying in the clouds, and an obvious observation anyone could make is meditation connects you more with spirit, not the physical plane. If you’d like to not completely float away, meditate less frequently if you feel ungrounded. Another solution would be meditate differently, for example, use guided meditation aided to help ground you and balance the root chakra.

Hope this was helpful, SG

Three Date Rule and the Three day rule

The three date rule states some variation of the fact that sex should be initiated by the third date. Or at least the interest level should be determined to decide if sex will happen or not. Given my most recent dating experience I have to agree with it. I don’t give a crap if it’s an old rule or unproven rule. It’s one that makes sense.

I just met a guy online and we met in person pretty fast. Let me stop right there and say sometimes that is even hard to do. People back out, get sucked in by other things going on, or simply meet too many other people online at the same time. It’s a whirlwind really and sometimes you have to be that squeaky wheel begging for the oil.

So I met a guy online and it went something like this: Date one: coffee meet up turned into Greek food apps. Date two: I went to his place. He wasn’t much of a tv lover, so some talking happened. No tv. Some kissing, some fooling around. Date three: same as date two but the determination had to be made about the sex. Don’t ask me why… Probably having nothing to do with the three date rule, sex was presented, and the decision all up to little, old me. The final verdict: not this time! Not interested! I suppose I used the three date rule without even realizing it. I say why not reinvent it to your own individual style. Whatever point it takes so you can decide and judge your physical and intimate interest level. I’ve had a “spark” on a first date before (You can see my older post, The Gemini, for a little more on that) and know it will happen again. And happen with someone where it isn’t all about the physical either. It will be a nice balance of the two, physical and intellect.

So here’s a cool article about rules better than the three-DAY rule, which let’s face facts, can easily be mixed up with the three date rule. And it’s another super outdated rule. The Huff post article mentions dating rules you should follow over waiting three days to call. I really dig them all, especially the last one that states the only thing you can control in a relationship is yourself. All and all, still connected to today’s dating, since all rules for online dating are becoming more and more obsolete…If there are any dating rules still being followed at all.

Once a rebel, always a rebel,

Single Girl

Ask Single Dating Diva: Are Dating Butterflies Necessary?

Suzie the Single Dating Diva

You know that feeling when you meet someone you like? That excited feeling? You’re nervous but it’s good nervous. It’s a buzz. You may feel like you’re going to vomit. You know the feeling. This feeling is commonly referred to as “butterflies”. It’s the best feeling, especially since it doesn’t always happen. The more you date the more you see that some people just don’t do it for you, you just don’t feel it. No butterflies. Then, you meet someone who totally makes you want to do somersaults. So what’s the deal? A more important question is if dating butterflies are necessary … what if they’re not there? Should you walk away? That’s what one reader asked.

Dating-ButterfliesDear Single Dating Diva,

I’ve been dating a lot lately and I’m not just feeling it. I go on date after date with sometimes great people and just don’t feel it. You know…

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He’s Just Not That Into You…

The debut year for this movie was 2009, really, where does the time go? It flies away!!! I know this film has snippets of great lines and great advice all throughout it, but I just re-watched it the other night and only one scene resonated with me more than the rest. I just related to it so freaking much more than any other scenario in the entire movie.

For those of you not familiar with the movie, the character Gigi hung around for a party that her guy friend Alex threw and she thought she was there as more than a guest. She was pouring her heart out, acting like a sweet, bubbly girlfriend-to-be, putting herself out there that so that Alex would understand she picked up on his signals. The signals he was giving to suggest he liked her. She threw herself at him for a chance at love…and he didn’t respond at all. This all led up to the quote below.  In my opinion, it wins best overall monologue of the entire movie. (Gotta love the cursing too):

Gigi: “I may dissect each little thing and put myself out there so much but at least that means that I still care. Oh! You’ve think you won because women are expendable to you. You may not get hurt or make an ass of yourself that way but you don’t fall in love that way either. You have not won. You’re alone. I may do a lot of stupid shit but I’m still a lot closer to love than you are.”

Closer than yesterday?,

Single Girl (Rules)