What I learned in 2016: a personal yet always random year in review

Can I start off by saying here in South Florida it doesn’t feel like December. Sure, it has still cooled off those 2 or 3 degrees. There are lights up. There are Christmas trees and decorations starting to show up more and more since December 1st hit.  But it just doesn’t feel like December. With that, let me transition so smoothly into my first random thought. All random. All related to something I learned in 2016. It’s been one heck of a year. 


Could there BE a funnier quote  to start with, as Chandler Bing would say? No there couldn’t be. Just like Vegas: what happens in 2016 stays in 2016.  Basically no matter how much it doesn’t feel like December, no matter how many times you say, “gee this is another year that went by too freaking fast”, no matter how much you reflect on the colossal amount of universe and personal shit that went down, the year is finally ending. For those disppointed in the election results, like I was, please remain strong. Pleasant twists and turns may be in store.  Also back to the quote or meme, it also reminds me of the movie Fight Club. “First rule of fight club, never talk about fight club”. Lol. Sayonara 2016, just Sayonara! 

2) I lived with my sister for four months out of 2016, and I have to say I took a lot from the experience. My sister has a husband and a 6 year old child. She loves me and is protective of me. But being 34 years old she just found it difficult to understand my place, and what brought me to the point in my life where I had to stay with her rent free for those months. She took me in and supported me. Being somewhat psychic, I feel she felt like a Harry Potter spell or a quick point of a magic wand would fix everything. I have had over 22 jobs that haven’t lasted since 2014. She just doesn’t get it. I am grateful I got to live with her though because it taught me no one is perfect. No one’s life is perfect. They were imperfectly who they were and I was imperfectly who I was. It’s not Facebook. It’s raw real life. They were a family, so as much as I would have been happy to stay longer, I had to be nomadic once again and move. I’ve moved too much professionally and personally. That’s been my life the past few years. And especially in 2016, I am hoping to finally say I learned from it. She doesn’t have to get me. I don’t have to get her stability. She has a family. I’ve never been married yet, but I learned your marriage and family by marriage has to always come first. When it doesn’t, that’s when you have bigger problems to fry! ❤️


Going with the bullets above, I think this quote is fitting and superb. The original quote is also in the book Furiously Happy by Jenny Lawson, but she only uses, “hell is other people”. I talked to my therapist this year about this quote and we agreed it really is both. It’s your own lens that perceive your opinions about others. So it truly does all start with you. Hell is other people. AND hell is yourself. Food for thought. It brings my life and love for the yin yang full circle. The full circle thing is fresh in my head thanks to the awesome Gilmore Girls revival. Maybe there is such a thing as balance out there? Or maybe like I pointed out above, maybe it’s the perfect imperfections that create an individual’s idea of balance. Life is messy, but that’s what makes it beautiful. That’s what makes it exciting. 

4) I learned this year that even with being so mobile with my career and living arrangements, I can still seek and find answers. I have a great amount of intuition and psychic ability that I don’t trust. I have to learn how to harness it and its good power. It will be the thing that makes me rise. It will be the thing that makes me peak, but continuously, not only once. I decided and was guided to make a bold move and  work for myself. It’s actually one of the main reasons I haven’t posted in a while on here. It’s completely in the beginning stages, and all that doesn’t matter. It will take time. How much time? I’m not sure. But isn’t, time anyways, all relative? It will make things sync in my life.  And what’s better than that really? 


Finally, when someone pushes you down, please remember this quote. You are perfect just the way you are. I’m still learning to forgive myself. I can forgive others a little too easily, but I must forgive myself. I’m highly sensitive, I’m emotional, and in all my imperfections, I am perfect just the way I am! 

Fuck resolutions, this is 2017 we’re talking about,



Another letter to the Universe, aka A letter to myself

Dear Universe,      

I thought I wouldn’t have to talk to you again so soon. You are throwing out all these lessons for me to learn, but you see, I’m not learning them. The same things are repeating in my life. The lessons are repeating freakishly the same…that I have to ask, will I ever learn them? Will I learn them soon? 

I’m tired of always looking for good inside of shit, or worrying too much of the future or living too much in the past. Please, please, I know you got this. I got this too. Bring me peace so that the externals won’t look as bad, and will start not to matter as much. Bring me unconditional love, for myself and from a significant other. I will not tolerate feeling lonely anymore. There are too many great people out there. I have to just meet them first. Bring me financial and creative freedom. I am tired of being bored. Bring me action…this stagnancy is like a prison. Like I said, we got this. Bring on the change, bring on the good. When we talk again I’m hoping it will only be a follow-up thank you with a dash of peace. Amen.  And so it is. 

 Below are a couple appropriate passages from the Change me prayers book by Silver: 


Let me learn my lessons and move gracefully forward,


Dear Universe…

Hello beautiful singles! Hello beautiful WordPress users! I am writing for a very simple, yet very purposeful reason tonight. I have a birthday that is approaching. I’m getting up there, going to be 32. Thank the Universe and thank the Lord in the heavens above that I don’t feel that old. I still have loads of passion yet to unleash. I actually look young for my age too. Although my thoughts are focusing on career changes right now, I always have love on the back burner. It’s usually on the front burner, but I am going about things differently for a change.  I know in my heart whether I find some more opportunities for love online or if I get lucky enough to find opportunities offline, it will absolutely happen when the time is right. Well, I’m getting a little sidetracked here, but going back to the Universe, I have a very special message I’d like to share and direct out there to the powerful cosmic forces:

Dear Universe, 

My birthday is practically here. I feel more changes coming, yet that things are syncing. Let’s make this year to come a phenomenal one.    


Never forget the quote above, 

Single Birthday Girl